I'm part of several moms groups, and a few of my groups have a few moms who complain about their children's behavior, but don't seem willing or capable of making the changes necessary to help their kid. Case in point. Your toddler isn't sleeping. You will do "anything" except for let her cry. Why? What is so bad about a child having to cry at some point? A toddler isn't capable of full reasoning, and you will not be able to explain to her that sleep is important. Your options are to soothe her constantly, or let her cry. It is fine if you opt to soothe her into oblivion, but then don't complain about it, for Pete's sake!
I read this over and over again, whether it be about sleeping, or behavior. Either grow up and fix it, or accept that you live with a tyrant and you are ok with that. I've said it before, and I'll say it again. My children are not perfect. They test boundaries constantly. I had to haul my two year old out of a store over my shoulder the other day because she was being a serious turd, but the next time we went to a store, she was delightful. She tested, and discovered the answer. Problem solved.
My method is not acceptable to everyone. Some find it too lenient because I neither raise my voice or raise my hand to my children. Some find it too harsh because I demand certain behaviors and don't tolerate any less. It works for me. What you do should work for you too, and if it doesn't, consider changing it. I'm not saying to do what I do, but if you are unhappy with your results, change the method.
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